Reality check y'all! As a therapist, I deal with expectations versus reality in relationships every day. And you know what? It ain't just about your significant other and their annoying habits (although we all know about those😆). It's also about the expectations we set for ourselves and others. 🥹
So, when some of y’all ask me to post more real life shots, I'm happy to oblige 😋👌🏼 But don't expect me to be in "sexy" lingerie all the damn time 😜 That's not reality, you know? Most of my real life consists of me rocking my medical scrubs or business attire (which, btw, can be sexy if you're into that kind of thing 😉).
Sure, I like to mix it up with modeling gigs and the occasional lingerie shoot, and all the other hobbies and gigs I do but that's not the norm, of what I do full time people. And let's be honest, do you really want to see me in my scrubs after a long day of dealing with clients? I didn't think so. 🤷🏼♀️
My point is, we all have unrealistic expectations at times. But it's important to recognize the difference between fantasy and reality. I can't be a lingerie-clad model 24/7, just like your significant other can't magically change all their annoying habits, and we certainly can’t change all of our annoying habits at least overnight 😅 So let's embrace the real – it may not always be pretty, but it's certainly more relatable. 💁🏼♀️
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How to make better decisions and reach your goals and objectives continued…
💠Set SMART goals: SMART stands for Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Time-bound. When setting goals, make sure they are well-defined, realistic, and have a clear timeline. Breaking them down into smaller, manageable steps can make them more attainable.
💠Gather information and explore alternatives: Before making decisions, gather relevant information and explore different options. Consider the potential outcomes, benefits, and drawbacks of each alternative. Seek advice from trusted sources or experts when needed.
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How to make better decisions and reach your goals and objectives. For starters, it's important to assess your current situation and identify your goals. Are there any specific areas of your life where you feel you need guidance or improvement? It could be related to your career, relationships, personal development, or any other aspect. 🤔
Once we have a clear understanding of your objectives, you can start exploring strategies to help you make better decisions.
💠 Clarify your values and priorities: Take some time to reflect on what truly matters to you. Identify your core values and align your decisions and actions with them. This will provide you with a solid foundation for making choices that are in line with your authentic self.
❤️🩹Hey y'all, I wanna talk about something that we all struggle with at one point or another - CONFIDENCE.
❤️🩹First things first, let's acknowledge that building confidence is a journey, not a destination. It's gonna take time, effort, and a whole lot of self-love, but trust me when I say it's worth it.
Now, for some tips and tricks:
👉 Practice self-compassion - be kind and forgiving to yourself
👉 Focus on what you CAN do, not what you can't
👉 Take risks and try new things - nothing builds confidence like pushing out of your comfort zone
👉 Surround yourself with positive, supportive people - ditch the negative Nancy's and Debbie Downers
👉 Master a new skill or hobby - set achievable goals and watch your confidence soar
❤️🩹But here's the thing, babes - building confidence isn't about becoming a cocky son of a b*tch. It's about truly believing in yourself and your abilities, even when things get tough. It's about standing up for yourself, speaking your truth, and owning your worth.
❤️🩹So let's raise a glass (of sparkling water, no judgment here) to becoming our most confident selves! And hey, if you need a little extra support on this journey, I'm here for you.
💕I thought I'd chime in and remind you all of the importance of communication with your partner when it comes to getting freaky in the bedroom (or wherever else you may fancy).
💕You see, communication is key to creating a healthy and satisfying sex life. It allows you to express your desires, boundaries, and needs, and helps you both to explore new things in a safe and respectful way. Plus, it can be hella sexy to talk dirty and share your fantasies with your partner.
💕So, next time you're getting it on like Donkey Kong, remember that communication is the ultimate aphrodisiac. Get sassy, get silly, get bold, and most importantly, get talking! Because let's face it, no one is a mind reader, and who wants to leave their pleasure to chance?
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🔥ATTN: Ready to take your sexual experience to the next level? 😉 Tantric sex is the answer! 🙌
This spiritual approach to intimacy involves slowing down and creating a deeper connection with your partner (or yourself!), resulting in an energy-filled experience that'll leave you feeling enlightened AF. 😇
So how exactly does one practice tantric sex, you ask? 🤔 Well, it involves techniques such as deep breathing, eye contact, and intentional touch all geared towards creating a sacred space of connection and intimacy. 🔮
😌But don't worry, you don't have to be a monk to master these methods! Start with setting the mood- dim the lights, light some candles, and put on some relaxing music. 💆♀️Then, take your time exploring your partner's body, focusing on their pleasure and breath. Remember, slowing down is key! 🚦
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💝Q&A
💛Q: Our sex life is boring.What can we do about it?
💛A: Let's get real, folks. At some point in your relationship, things can become as dull as dishwater. You're going through the motions and there's no real spark in the bedroom. Sure, everything else is good, but the sex? Not so much.
💛But here's the deal: you need to admit it and talk about it with your partner. Trust me, if you don't, things will only get worse. Your frustration could turn toxic, and you might become emotionally unavailable. Yikes. 🥺
💛To avoid this, have a conversation with your partner. Don't blame them for the lackluster sex life - it's not that they're not sexy or capable, it's just that you need something more. And don't worry, you're not alone in feeling this way.
💛You may have tried everything to spice things up, but that only lasted so long. Enter tantric sex. It's all about connecting with the pleasure inside you and taking things to a whole new level. And hey, you can utilize toys and lingerie if that suits you…Win-win, right?
💛So don't let boredom get the best of you. Have a chat, try something new, and reignite that flame 🔥
Stay tuned for more on tantric sex 🔥🔥
Alrighty folks, Mindfulness 🧘♀️
💋let's talk about how to improve your sex life with some mindfulness. First off, you can ease in by practicing in a comfy, controlled environment or just go for it and test it out in the bedroom.
💋Take a sec to get your mind and body right before getting down and dirty. Maybe hop in the shower or do some yoga for a bit. Hey, if you only have a few minutes to spare, try out a mindfulness app or just focus on your breathing.
💋Now onto the fun stuff. Pay attention to those senses, baby! Feel the heat and pressure of your partner's body, notice the sounds and pace of their breathing, and definitely don't forget to revel in the sensations of your own body.
💋If your mind starts wandering off to your grocery list or whatever other distractions, bring it back to the task at hand - pleasure with your boo.
💋Don't be too hard on yourself or your partner - no need to fixate on perceived flaws. Take suggestions and ideas with open ears and explore new things with a beginner's mindset.
And finally, when all else fails, just breathe. Inhale slowly, exhale deeply, and let yourself relax into the moment. Enjoy the journey, y'all.
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It's that time of the year again - the day where we get to appreciate the man who's been there for us from the get-go. ( or the ones who stood in place and took on that role) You guessed it, it's Father's Day!
Let's talk about that for a minute. They're the ones who taught us how to ride a bike (and probably laughed at us when we fell), cheered us on at our sports games (even when we were the last ones picked for the team) and could fix anything with nothing but some duct tape and a little elbow grease.
Not only did they provide for us when we were growing up, but they also served as our role.models for how to be a stand-up guy in this crazy world. And let's be real, they taught us all the best dad jokes that we now love to share with our friends.
So on this special day, let's give them a little extra love and appreciation. Whether that's with a homemade card, a call, or maybe even a present (no shame in buying something off Amazon last minute). After all, we wouldn't be here without them.
And for all the new dads out there, you're now a part of this elite club. Get ready for the sleepless nights, the endless di@per changes, and the priceless moments that make it all worth it.
Happy Father's Day to all the dads out there - we appreciate you more than you know! Cheers to you, gentlemen! 🍻
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Hey there, curious minds! As a therapist, I get asked this question all the time: how often do married couples have sex? Well, the answer isn't straightforward, folks. It all depends on a bunch of factors.
According to a recent survey by Newsweek magazine, married couples have sex about 68.5 times a year on average 🤔. But that's just an average, and I know y'all don't want to be basic! So, let me drop some knowledge bombs 💣 on you!
Did you know that married couples under 30 get it on about 112 times a year?😱 That's some serious bonking! But as we age, our sexual desires and needs change, so it's natural for the frequency to decline. AARP revealed in their study that people older than 50 have less sex than younger people which isn’t all that surprising. And in the 70s, 36% of women and 33% of men have sex twice a month.
But wait, there's more! Sexual communication is crucial for sexual satisfaction. A recent study found a strong correlation between sexual communication and orgasms for women. So, don't be afraid to talk about it, folks! But I get it 😅 it’s not always the most comfortable conversation or topic for everyone, and sometimes what’s comfortable for you may not be comfortable for your partner.
All in all, there's no one-size-fits-all answer to how often married couples should have sex. It depends on each person's desires and needs. But remember, it's quality over quantity, folks! If you find yourself or your partner reaching for alternatives to satisfy yours or their needs it may be a convo that needs to be had. Sometimes it’s a matter of communication and making time for one another 🔥
So, go out there and have some sexy, satisfying fun with your partner!
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❤️ Do you have a habit of screaming, slamming doors, and turning into the Hulk when triggered? Well, guess what? These are learned behaviors that you may have picked up from previous abuse. Yup, that's right. The abuse could be still living through you, even if you've escaped the abuser. But don't freak out just yet, because I’ve got some tips to help you unlearn these toxic patterns.
❤️First things first - create boundaries. But wait, don't run away just yet! Creating boundaries is actually the easy part. The real challenge is rewiring your brain to subconsciously respond with healthy behavior. And yeah, it's easier said than done. But we've got a trick up our sleeve - the power of the pause.
❤️Before you react to any situation, take a deep breath and hit pause. This gives you time to process your immediate reaction and decide whether it's healthy or not. Are you reacting or responding? Big difference, folks. Trust me.
❤️Now, don't feel discouraged if you mess up a few times. Unlearning abusive behavior is a process that takes time. Eventually, healthy responses will become a habit and second nature. So go ahead, give it a try. Your future self will thank you!
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🌹Alright, fellas, it's time to talk about the real MVP of colors: red You know what they say, "red is the color of passion," and let's be real, it's pretty damn seductive. But why is that?
🌹Well, first off, red is a color that just can't be ignored. It's bold, it's daring, and it demands attention. It's the color of stop signs, fire trucks, and those little hearts you see on Valentine's Day. And let's not forget about the ladies, gentlemen. You see a woman in a red dress and suddenly your heart is racing faster than Usain Bolt.
🌹But it's not just about the physical reaction to the color. Red is also associated with power, confidence, and desire. It's a color that says, "I'm in charge," and "I know what I want." And let's be honest, what's sexier than a man who knows what he wants?
🌹So, whether you're wearing a red suit, driving a red sports car, or just adding some red accents to your home decor, you're tapping into the power of this seductive color. It's a color that says, "I'm bold, I'm daring, and I'm not afraid to take risks."
🌹So go ahead, embrace the power of red. Just be prepared for the attention that comes with it. Because when you wear red, you're not just making a statement, you're making a statement that demands to be heard.
🥵 Ready to upgrade your intimacy game with the 5 A's! Acceptance, Affection, Appreciation, Approval, and Attention are the keys to unlock emotional fulfillment. Let's break it down:
👉 Acceptance: Embrace your partner for who they are, quirks and all. Some of that may take time, learning to embrace their “flaws” just and you learn to find ways to embrace your own. ( yes, I know it’s often difficult depending on the flaw but no one is perfect 🥹)
👉 Affection: Show your partner some love, whether it's a hug or a kiss - physical touch is crucial in building intimacy. Give them a complement 🗣️ When was the last time you told your significant other that they were sexy, or attractive?
👉 Appreciation: Take the time to tell your partner how much you appreciate them or you appreciate things that they do. A little thank you can go a long way!
👉 Approval: Everyone needs to feel validated, so don't forget to give your partner some positive feedback on their achievements.
👉 Attention: Be present in the moment and give your partner your undivided attention. Put those phones away and enjoy each other's company. I’ll say that again for the people in the back 🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️ PUT YA’ll PHONES AWAY 😜
Incorporate the 5 A's into your relationship and watch the sparks fly! 🔥
🪴Welcome to the social media platform that's not afraid to tackle the realities of sex and relationships head-on 👏🏻 As a therapist, I've seen it all, heard it all, and helped countless couples navigate the ups and downs of intimacy. And I'm here to tell you, folks, that when it comes to sex, porn is NOT the place to get your ideas and expectations from.😵💫
🪴Let's be real, porn is just a form of entertainment - like reality TV or video games. It's not meant to replicate real-life sex. Sure, it can be fun to watch, but it's not something you should base your sexual experiences off of.
🪴Here's why: For starters, porn is heavily scripted and edited. The actors and actresses are performing for the camera - not for each other's pleasure. The sex positions, moves, and sounds you see are calculated to look good on screen, and may not feel good in real life.
🪴Not to mention, porn often portrays unrealistic and sometimes downright harmful depictions of sex. From the unrealistic expectations of male and female bodies to the lack of attention paid to consent and communication, porn can set up some seriously damaging ideas about sex and what it should look like.
🪴So, my friends, I implore you: Don't get your sex ideas and expectations from porn. Instead, seek out real education from qualified professionals (like me 😅) who can help you navigate the sometimes bumpy road of sexual exploration.
🪴Join me on this journey to discover what really makes sex great - communication, respect, and a willingness to explore and learn together. And trust me, when you are able to look at porn for what it is .. entertainment and leave it at that it helps to minimize the line that often gets blurred between what is actual sex and intimacy in real relationships.
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🖤Strip Tease Set 🖤
I have to admit that some things just make life better. A good cup of coffee☕️, a warm bubble bath 🛀 , and of course, a steamy strip 😈 . Yup, you heard me right! Strip teasing is an art form that can add a whole new level of excitement to your love life. Don't believe me? Keep reading...
▪️Let's talk about the allure of strip teasing. Sure, it's no secret that men are often drawn to this tantalizing 💃🏼 , but it's not just men who can benefit from the art of strip teasing. Women can also tap into their inner seductress and enjoy the thrill of a good strip down.
▪️But why is it so appealing? For many, it's the combination of vulnerability and confidence. As the clothes come off, you're revealing your most intimate self, but at the same time, you're in complete control. It's a chance to showcase your body and your sexuality in a way that is both empowering and exciting.
▪️Now, I know some of you may be hesitant to try this out. But hear me out. Strip teasing can add a positive element to your relationship, allowing you to connect with your partner in a new and intimate way. It's a chance to let go of inhibitions and explore your desires.
▪️So, if you're ready to give it a shot, here are 10 of the best strip tease songs of all time to get you started:
🎵"Cherry Pie" by Warrant
🎵"I Want Your Sex" by George Michael
🎵"Hotline Bling" by Drake
🎵"Crazy In Love" by Beyoncé
🎵"Sexual Healing" by Marvin Gaye
🎵"Pony" by Ginuwine
🎵"Wicked Game" by Chris Isaak
🎵"Lady Marmalade" by Christina Aguilera, Lil' Kim, Mya, and Pink
🎵"Earned It" by The Weeknd
🎵"Fever" by Peggy Lee
▪️Now it's your turn! Tell me in the comments or send me a DM: have you ever tried strip teasing, or are you open to giving it a shot? What do you think makes it so appealing? Let's chat!
💛 "Feeling down? Have some fun in the sheets!
Sex is LIKE a medicine for your mental health.
It boosts serotonin, self-esteem, and leads to better sleep and happiness. As a therapist, I prescribe you a dose of pleasure. 😉
💛Let's talk about the benefits of sex on mental health. Did you know that sex can be a natural mood booster? Low levels of serotonin can cause difficulties with decision-making, finishing tasks, and controlling impulses. Luckily, sex boosts your serotonin levels, leaving you feeling more stable and focused.
💛But that's just the tip of the iceberg. Sexual intimacy can also increase self-esteem, make you happier, and even lead to better sleep. The hormones released during orgasm like serotonin and oxytocin can help you feel relaxed, nurtured, and desired. Plus, endorphins released during sex can improve your overall mood and decrease feelings of depression.
💛However, it's important to acknowledge that sex can also have negative effects on mental health if proper precautions aren't taken. Feeling pressure or guilt around sex can lead to anxiety or even cause physical pain. That being said, it's crucial to prioritize clear and honest communication with your partner and make sure that both parties are comfortable and consent before engaging in sexual activity.
💛As a therapist, I'm here to remind you that sexual health is a vital aspect of mental health and well-being. Whether you're solo or with a partner, prioritizing pleasure can do wonders for your mood. So go ahead and spice up your mental health routine with some sexy self-care.
Hey there, friends! As a therapist, I can tell you that human beings have five levels of needs to be satisfied in order to achieve self-fulfillment. Yup, that's right - the legendary Maslow came up with this concept. 🕵️♀️So, let's break it down:
🐼First, there are the physiological needs - think food, water, and shelter. Without these basic necessities, we're basically just surviving, not thriving.
🐼Next up are safety needs - feeling secure in our surroundings and having stability in our lives. You know, things like job security, a safe home environment, and financial stability.
🐼Onto the third level - belongingness and love needs. This includes meaningful relationships with family and friends, feeling a sense of community, and finding romantic love. We all crave connection and a sense of belonging, right?
🐼Fourth on the list are esteem needs - feeling respected, valued, and confident in ourselves. This can come from accomplishments, recognition, and feeling appreciated by others.
5️⃣🐼And last but not least, we have self-actualization needs - the highest level of Maslow's hierarchy. This is all about achieving our full potential and fulfilling our passions and purpose in life.
🖤Now that we've covered the basics, what do YOU think? Have you found fulfillment in all five of these areas?
Let's chat in the comments or send me a DM😊👇
Hi 👋🏼 beautiful friends ! ugh… My full-time job has been keeping me on my toes the last couple of weeks, but fear not, I've been cooking up something new for all of you. That's right, some fresh content is headed your way real soon!
But before I get ahead of myself, let's not forget about the essentials. First off, have you checked out my tip menu lately? It's just like a regular menu, but instead of ordering food, you're ordering some hot, spicy, content and or knowledge bombs! And if you're feeling extra generous, my Amazon wishlist is still up and running, so feel free to shower me with presents🥰. I won't say no to anything that will help me create new content , just saying.
And last but not least, let's talk about the elephant in the room - uncomfortable topics. I know some of you might feel a bit shy about requesting certain topics, but I promise you, this is a judgment-free zone. Nothing is off-limits, and I'm here to educate and entertain. So bring on those uncomfortable questions, and let's not take ourselves too seriously. Laughter is the best medicine, after all.
Communication is the #1 barrier in every relationship 🗣️
A good sex therapist will encourage couples to talk openly with one another about their erotic fantasies and desires, which rarely happens outside of the therapist's office unless the couples' sexual fantasies and behaviors are causing problems in their lives.
Why do you think it’s so difficult to talk about your needs and wants with a partner?
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What you eat can have a significant impact on both your physical and mental health.
💪🏼Physical health: a diet that is high in nutrients and low in processed foods is generally considered to be the most beneficial. This includes foods that are rich in vitamins, minerals, fiber, and healthy fats, such as fruits, vegetables, whole grains, nuts, seeds, and fatty fish.
🧠Mental health, research suggests that there may be a link between diet and mental health outcomes. Specifically, some studies have found that a diet that is high in fruits, vegetables, whole grains, lean protein, and healthy fats may be associated with lower rates of depression and anxiety. On the other hand, a diet that is high in processed foods, sugar, and unhealthy fats may be associated with a higher risk of depression and anxiety.
💋Sexual health, certain nutrients are thought to be particularly important. For example, vitamin C is essential for the health of the 🩸 vessels that supply the genital area, while zinc is important for testosterone production in men. Some foods that are high in these and other nutrients that may be beneficial for sexual health include:
- Fruits and vegetables: These are generally high in vitamins, minerals, and antioxidants that can help support overall health, including sexual health.
- Whole grains: These are a good source of fiber, which can help promote healthy digestion and 🩸 flow.
- Lean protein: This is important for muscle growth and repair, which can be important for sexual function.
- Fatty fish: These are a good source of omega-3 fatty acids, which can help promote healthy 🩸 flow.
- Nuts and seeds: These are a good source of healthy fats, which can help support hormone production and overall health.
Of course, it's important to keep in mind that there is no one-size-fits-all diet when it comes to sexual health or any other aspect of health. If you have specific concerns or questions about your diet and how it might be affecting your health, it can be helpful to speak with a registered dietitian who can provide personalized guidance and recommendations.
😴 3 tips to help improve your sleep 😴
💤Stick to a consistent sleep schedule: Try to go to bed and wake up at the same time every day, even on weekends. This helps regulate your body's natural sleep-wake cycle and can improve the quality of your sleep.
💤Create a relaxing bedtime routine: Establish a calming bedtime routine that helps you wind down and relax before sleep. This might include taking a warm bath, reading a book, or practicing relaxation techniques like deep breathing or meditation.
💤 Optimize your sleep environment: Create a sleep-conducive environment that's cool, dark, and quiet. This might involve using blackout curtains, white noise machines, or comfortable bedding and pillows. Avoid using electronic devices in bed, as the blue light emitted by screens can interfere with your sleep cycle.
🛏️Remember, everyone's sleep needs are different, so it's important to experiment with what works best for you and make adjustments as needed.
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